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Fear Is a Darkroom: Learning to See Clearly in Times of Uncertainty

«Fear is a darkroom where we develop our negatives.»
This powerful metaphor was coined by one of my students during a class presentation on anxiety. The phrase has stuck with me ever since, and its impact feels even more profound today.

Though the image might seem outdated in our digital age, it still resonates deeply. Fear, much like a darkroom, can amplify the negative aspects of our experience. Yet it’s also a natural and necessary human emotion—designed to help us survive.

In this post, I want to explore fear: how we experience it, how we react to it, and how we might begin to manage it more mindfully, especially in an age saturated by media, information, and uncertainty.

Fear: Our Companion and Our Captor

Fear often arises in response to uncertainty, perceived danger, or threat. It can be an essential ally, alerting us to danger and helping us protect ourselves. But fear can also become inappropriate, contagious, and destructive—especially when left unexamined.

Much of our response to fear is shaped by past experiences. If you were once chased by a dog and ran away unscathed, you might adopt avoidance as your go-to strategy—not just with dogs, but in any situation that provokes anxiety. But avoidance can become limiting. It keeps us confined to a «comfort zone» and prevents growth.

Sometimes our fears aren’t even based on personal experience, but on secondhand information—what we’ve been told or what we observe in others. Remember the panic-buying during the early days of COVID-19? It wasn’t just fear of the virus, but fear of scarcity, stoked by media images and collective behavior.

The Conditioning of Fear

Our reactions to fear are often conditioned responses. We learn them from the people around us—parents, caregivers, teachers, friends—and from what has worked for us in the past.

But here’s the catch: strategies that helped us once might not serve us in every situation. And when fear leads us to always flee, isolate, or over-control, we risk cutting ourselves off from growth, connection, and insight.

In a world flooded with polarizing opinions, headlines, and “truths,” we often cling to whatever reinforces our worldview. That gives us a sense of security. But are we really seeking truth—or just emotional reassurance?

A Little Experiment

Let’s pause for a moment. Try this small emotional awareness experiment:

Read the two statements below and observe your internal reaction:

1. “We have become slaves and victims of state propaganda and of the fears they have induced to keep us quiet and grateful for our lot.”
2. “The media and our democratically elected government, in tandem with science, are doing everything they can to protect, inform and look after us.”

Now ask yourself:

• Which one do you feel is more true?
• How did you arrive at that conclusion?
• Were your emotions involved?
• Were your beliefs or biases influencing your judgment?

This experiment isn’t about choosing a side—it’s about observing your internal world.

Mindfulness in Conflict Resolution

Last year, I presented research on mindfulness and language teaching at an academic congress at the University of Zaragoza. One workshop stood out: it was led by a conflict mediator who uses mindfulness to work with deep-rooted disputes—religious, political, ethnic.

His approach begins with active listening—asking each side to express their truth while the other listens in silence. He encourages moments of stillness, self-awareness, and even creative expression, like human sculptures representing each group’s perspective.

Sometimes, this process softens barriers. People begin to see that beneath the anger and division, there is shared humanity—like love for family or desire for safety.

And when dialogue stalls, he takes a bold next step: he invites each group to “find the lie hidden in their truth.” This can be transformational. Recognizing the grain of falsehood in our own beliefs helps us acknowledge the truth in others’. That mutual recognition is often the beginning of real resolution.

Finding Space to Breathe

With the constant noise of news and social media, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. It’s okay—necessary, even—to disconnect sometimes. Find a quiet space, breathe, and allow yourself to feel without judgment.

Fear is not inherently bad. But we must distinguish between real and present danger and fear based on imagined futures—what I call “Future Expectations Appearing Real.” That kind of fear can trap us.

Staying alert is good—if it leads to awareness, wisdom, and compassion. But if it stems from irrational fear or constant vigilance, it becomes harmful.

That’s why I would rewrite the well-known government slogan to say:
“Stay mindfully alert. Protect your mental health and that of others.”

A Mindful Path Through Fear

Fear is with us. Always will be. But we don’t have to be ruled by it. Through mindfulness, we can learn to:

• Stop and be
• Breathe
• Observe
• Respond wisely

By sitting with our fear and observing it clearly, we open the door to understanding and right action. In doing so, we not only manage our own emotions better—we also contribute to a wiser, more compassionate world.

Thank you for reading. If this resonated with you or sparked any questions, I’d love to hear from you. Feel free to get in touch—especially if you’re interested in learning more about mindfulness, emotional awareness, or how these practices can support education and community wellbeing.